Dave Tate
pissed off a lot of people when he wrote that, if you can text between sets,
you’re not working hard enough at the gym.
I do not work hard enough at the gym, because the inspiration for this
post came as I was cruising reddit between sets and saw some dude lamenting the
fact that he “literally did not have time to eat”. You see, this individual was VERY busy: they
had school AND a job. I extended the
greatest degree of sympathy I could at 0330 in the middle of my workout and
offered a solution of PBJs (thanks Dan John!), but like many of my posts, this
got me thinking in the middle of my workout and it dawned on me that there
seems to be a misunderstanding among the younger training population. Specifically, the misunderstanding is this:
just because you experience suffering in your life doesn’t give you a pass to
avoid suffering in the pursuit of your extra-curricular goals. Quite the opposite: on top of your day-to-day
suffering, you’re going to need to engage in a little RECREATIONAL suffering as
well.
What do I
mean by recreational suffering? I’m
talking about ELECTIVE suffering: suffering that you CHOOSE to experience. Day-to-day, everyone suffers INVOLUNTARILY. And look: we all fight our own battles and
everyone is having the hardest day of their lives every time you meet them, so
playing the “suffering Olympics” is stupid.
Someone is working 2 jobs to make ends meet and support their family ,
meanwhile, someone is living in a war torn destitute location and hasn’t slept
in days for fear of being murdered, meanwhile someone had to skip their morning
coffee because their alarm didn’t go off: all of us are suffering. But, in turn, no one chooses this suffering. And yes, Sartre would argue that everything
is a choice and we are all burdened with freedom, and others can argue that
there is no such thing as free will in the first place: quit being so academic
for a second and to quote Joe Dirt “quit focusing on the wrong part of the
story.”
RECREATIONAL
suffering is when we actually choose to go out of our way to suffer for our
goals. When we’re forced to suffer,
it’s really nothing special when we endure it: what other choice did we
have? It was either that or lay down and
die, and there’s something of a “survival bias” in place regarding that
one. But since everyone suffers every
day, to simply suffer involuntarily is to be average. To be ABOVE average, one engages in
recreational suffering. They go out of
their way to experience discomfort and make sacrifices such that they are able
to do things that other people don’t do.
They wake up early to get training in, or sleep less, or meal prep
rather than eat a bunch of junk, or they watch less television, or they don’t
drink, or etc etc. There are millions of
ways to engage in recreational suffering: the point is, it has to be engaged IN
if one wishes to achieve the benefits of it.
The other
thing to keep in mind about recreational suffering is this: it makes NO
difference what your baseline of suffering is.
Your body flat out doesn’t care.
You don’t get a pass simply because you’re already suffering enough in
your daily life: you have to CHOOSE to suffer to get above and beyond your
current station. You have NO free time
because you go to school and work? Sucks
for you man: sleep less. Or get a slow
cooker. Or learn how to sneak away on a
break and speed eat a snack. Or just
f**king get to YES somehow (reference my previous work on that). I saw a dude
who wanted to gain weight, and when told they’d need to engage in heavy
physical exercise immediately wanted to talk about how they had no gyms nearby
and when asked if they could buy equipment replied they “had no space to
workout”. You have no space to do a
kettlebell snatch? You need to go do
some recreational suffering my dude.
There’s a
myth out there that, if at any point in your pursuit of physical change you
experience ANY sort of discomfort, you are doing something wrong. This primarily stems from a bunch of
corporations and talking heads that want to promote this VERY idea so that they
can sell you their garbage product that won’t work, primarily because you CAN’T
sell hardwork and suffering: no one will buy it. No no: we all wanna buy the “20 minutes a
day, 3 days a week for INSTANT results” bunk and the pills and powders and
magic formulas. Folks: if it was easy,
more people would be jacked. That’s WHY
we find physically impressive people so physically impressive: they are living
manifestations of recreational suffering and toil. When you see someone really physically
accomplished at something, you are observing someone who is REALLY good at
subjecting themselves to misery and, in turn, someone who has spent a LOT of
time BEING miserable.
To the point that we blatantly villainize the lazy and make heroes of those who suffer
And allow me
to alienate some of my audience here, because I’m going to talk about the
strongest example of recreational suffering I know of. It’s not lifting weights: anyone who thinks
that is most likely in terrible shape.
It’s not swimming. It’s not
martial arts. It’s RUNNING. Why?
Because at any given point while running, you could just stop
running…and experience no consequences.
When you’re squatting, you get the bar on your back and squat down, and
at that point, you can either dump the bar or finish the squat. And honestly, finishing the squat is a far
better prospect: you can just rack the bar and THEN be done, vs having to clean
up the mess of a dumped bar. When you’re
swimming, if you decide you’re “done”, you either complete the swim or you
drown. But when you’re running, you have
to choose to run for EVERY step of the run.
At any point you could just NOT run.
At worse, if you’re on an outdoor run, you now have to take LONGER to
get to where you’re going because you have to walk, but hell, you could always
order an Uber if you’re really in a bind.
So hey, if
you decide you need to learn about recreational suffering, get up at 0300 and
go for a LONG run sometime.